Yet, sex is not always easy. It is not always comfortable. It is not always fun and games. Sometimes, sex becomes a cause of great distress, even a burden.
But it need not be. As with many problems we face in life, therapy can help restore our sexual health. Sex therapy is used for both individuals and couples.
What is sex therapy? How can it help?
As a therapist, understand that I do not directly participate in your journey to sexual freedom, rather, I facilitate open, honest discussion. My role is to guide you through the issues which are causing you distress, to help you understand and appreciate how you can take control of your sex life.
What exactly IS sex therapy?
- Low sexual desire
- Erectile dysfunction
- Premature ejaculation
- Body image concerns
- Intimacy issues
- Pain during intercourse
- Hypoactive sexual desire
- Impaired ability to communicate sexual needs/desires/preferences
This makes perfect sense when we consider that our sex starts with out thoughts, but the tongue allows us to communicate with our partner. Oh, and it IS a strong muscle, so there is that.
Sex therapy helps because a sexual problem could be as simple as stress or as complex as early childhood trauma. Among couples, it could be simple communication.
Thus, the first step in sex therapy is to complete an assessment, which we will do together. This will provide us with clues to what is causing the problem. This will also allow us to put together a kind of roadmap, a path to treatment we will follow in helping you regain sexual health.
In some cases, sex therapy provides rapid relief while in others, it may take some time. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to human sexuality – it is as unique as you are. But there are some common techniques which can help and it is my job to provide you with the tools you need for positive change.
I appreciate that talking about your sexual life is not easy, so I create a comfortable, safe environment that normalizes talking about bodies and intimacy. Sex therapy is always confidential, empathetic, and free of judgment.
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Some of the sexual problems facing men have to do with underlying issues, some with physiology, some with the rigors of aging or there may be other causes. No matter the reason, the psychological impact of sex problems on men can be difficult to handle. I help by providing a non-judgmental, fun, relaxed environment for helping men work through these issues.
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It is not uncommon for sexuality and intimacy to be related to other psychological or emotional issues. Our sessions will broadly address your whole sense of physical and internal wellbeing with care and sensitivity.
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Common Questions About Sex Therapy
To help ease your mind, consider some of the most common questions people have about sex therapy.
This is not to say you will be totally comfortable right away, but in time, you should be able to reveal even your most hidden thoughts and desires. No matter how awkward you feel, the only way your therapist can help is to know what is causing you discomfort. Remember too that everything said in therapy is confidential.
For instance, if a man is in a relationship and notices he no longer gets “morning wood,” he may stop snuggling up to his partner in the morning for fear the condition will be noticed. This is in part because most men are rather embarrassed if they cannot “get it up.”
The interest in sex is likely still present, but performance fears can easily alter his behavior in ways that are noticeable to you, his partner.
However, we must also account for foreplay and afterplay, which can extend the sexual experience far longer. In other words, the length of time for “good sex” is different for each couple. The most important thing is that both are in agreement; if not, couples sex therapy can help.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is usually a complex condition which may be related to both physiological and psychological factors, but which is totally unrelated to sexual desire and attraction.
One goal of sex therapy when a man is unable to achieve erection is to discover the underlying cause of ED and help couples get through it together.
If you believe you are asexual and are struggling with your place in society, sex therapy can help.
When I help couples, each reveals what they want as they want. If there is ever anything you need help with which you do not want to openly discuss in couples therapy, I am happy to meet with you as an individual. This way, I can help you get to the point where you can open up to your partner if that is your wish.
Just know that there is no set process for sex therapy. Each couple is different, so the path to helping is unique to you. I facilitate according to your needs.
Sex Therapy on YOUR Terms
Thus, I offer sex therapy when you need it, as long as needed and in an environment that is conducive to open, honest, engaging dialogue. Talking about sex can be embarrassing for some, so I take careful strides to make sure you are as comfortable as you need to be.